I’m always afraid, however, that people could get the wrong message.
It’s easy for us to say: If he doesn’t meet your standards, then walk away.
“Maybe it sounds a bit cruel, but in the fog of love, we abandon that voice quite quickly, because the other person is quickly perfect.
So it can seem cruel to ask yourself, if anything were wrong here, what would I select first about what might be wrong?
When we are unhappy and we don’t say anything, our resentment builds up and boils over. Once he’s marginalised your intuition, you then margianalise your common sense and your friends and other things.
So I think it starts at a very subtle level, to listen to that sense that maybe something is wrong here, and just keeping yourself aware of that voice.
Or, are you perfectly content with your partner, and you want everyone there to notice you with him/her?
Business Insider asked nine relationship experts for the signs to look out for when you’re trying to figure out if someone is right for you.Here’s what they said: “As simple as this may seem, I call it the ‘bar test’ to know if you’re with the right person.When you’re at a bar (or restaurant, wherever) with your new partner, are you looking around to see who else is out there or who might see you two together?With Tinder right at your fingertips, it’s tempting to go back and see if there is someone out there who is just a bit more perfect.With so much available choice, how are you supposed to know if someone is right for you?Couples who each truly place the needs and wants of their partners on par with or above their own seem handle a lifetime of compromising, juggling priorities, and collaborating better than couples who individually pursue their own best interests.” – Laura Vander Drift, associate professor of psychology at Syracuse University’s College of Arts and Sciences and director of the Close Relationships Lab at Syracuse University “One of the major signs that tells you if the person you’re dating is right for you is how they treat you when you’re sad, crying, having a bad day, or just emotional. Are they distracted when you’re expressing your feelings and most of all, do they know when to just give you a hug?It may seem simple but this is a very important trait to know what kind of human being the person is.But if it’s the former, it might be time to decide whether being in a relationship with this person is your best option.” – Erika Ettin, dating coach and founder of dating site A Little Nudge “A person who can authentically be excited about your success and goals in life is someone who won’t feel the need to hold you back.Most unhealthy relationships include some form of sabotaging of one partner.You might be “left on read” by someone you really liked, and your mind may spin out of control when you’re over-analysing what their last few messages meant.The woes don’t necessarily stop when you find someone.