If she had a good marriage and he died, there might be wiggle room, but I still wouldn’t date her).1: She decided to have a kid without a husband. It also shows that she thinks of men as sperm donors and child support payers, NOT husbands & fathers. Get ready to pay up for a kid that you won’t get to be a real dad to. At the very least, a single mom shows lack of good judgement; otherwise she wouldn't have had sex with a man with whom she was unwilling to have children.
They say that, unless you're willing to have CHILDREN with the person (after all, they are a byproduct of the sex act), then you should NOT have sex with the person. It isn’t likely, but I don’t want to take that chance.
If you didn’t have kids, how could you possibly understand the ins and outs of raising children? And, as you know, I am now married to a man who did not have any kids. ) So, when I recently heard from a man who’s dating a single mom, I paused because the story sounded similar to mine. She wants him to be a part of their lives, “but she uses the phrase ‘baby steps’ a lot, which says to me… And I don’t want to leave, so I guess I’m resigned to giving the relationship more time.” If you’re a single mom, have you ever dated a man without kids? If you’re a single guy (I know that some of you DO read this blog!
(Note I’m talking about life here, not her kids’ lives; he can still be around the kids, just not her.) Of course if you’re talking about an FB or low-end MLTR, then none of this matters; go right ahead. They’re her kids, not mine, so any problems that result are her problem. I’m not sure how many of you have kids but it might be a worthwhile thing to talk about.) Drama and Stress Other than logistics, the other downside of dating single mothers is that as I mentioned above, being a single mother is a horribly stressful, painful existence.It’s even harder if she doesn’t have access to a car.Most single mothers lack the funds to hire babysitters whenever they want.Her Kids The whole kid thing brings up many questions. If a woman has been in my life for a few months, and I consider her a high-end MLTR or OLTR candidate, then I will allow myself to interact with her kids just as much as her and I feel is appropriate. Just imagine having constant, never-ending financial problems, going to a shitty job you hate, then after exhausted from work coming home to one or two (or more!) kids who are hyper as shit because there is no consistent father around.Again, the issue is age, not motherhood status.) So if you find a single mother on your radar and she’s under the age of 33, don’t worry about her looking for some man to marry ASAP to help her raise her kids. (Her own mother and the government welfare state are her “husband”…she doesn’t need you.) Logistics Now we’re getting into something that really can be a problem with single mothers, and that’s logistics.Scheduling dates and meets with single mothers is often extremely difficult.Provider Hunter Status The first thing most men worry about is that single mothers are more likely to be provider hunters.I can tell you from vast personal experience this is rarely the case.It’s usually that determines provider hunter status, not motherhood.There are plenty of super hot mothers between the ages of 18 and 33 who are not looking for a provider in any sense of the word.