All of these dates were very stressful because of the time being I devoted just to get to the date.First date failure, whether because she wasn’t what I was looking for or the reverse, was very difficult.Breaking off communication with someone I had nothing in common with, or at least who was missing qualities I was looking for, became easy.Honestly, it was often a relief because there were more first dates waiting and I would be able to remove someone from my list of potentials.Dating in numbers allowed me to make decisions based on what I desired, not based on how lonely I was at that time.It also helped me better define what I was looking for in my profile. Greater Comfort One great side-effect to dating so actively was that I became more comfortable with dating itself.
Even when things didn’t work out and my date was not interested in seeing me again, at least I knew we just weren’t a match instead of wondering if I had only done “better” would she have liked me? Improved Odds If you believe that you can get along with out there then dating few people could work for you.
When I was relaxed, there was no “doing better” or “doing worse”. For the rest of us, the biggest part of find that special someone is opportunity.
To put it another way: imagine there is a room with 100 singles of the opposite sex in it and in this imaginary room there is one person who is a “match” to you.
On one occasion when things were going very poorly, instead of stressing out, I told my date I didn’t think we were a great match but that we could still have fun over dinner.
She seemed relieved and agreed to try to enjoy the dinner.