The answer is simple: wait until you feel comfortable!
This might take anything from a day to a year, or even longer.
This will help you to reach a place of trust and safety so that sex, when it does happen, can be colored by feelings of connection and acceptance, rather than anxiety and fear of judgment. Help your partner to understand that you are not rejecting them and that you are in fact attracted to them.
But also let them know that you want to make sex as pleasurable as it can be for both of you.
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So what are some of the big questions that come up for people who date despite their sexual dysfunction? For example, men often worry that women will see their sexual dysfunction this as a sign of weakness and be turned off as a result.
These sorts of thoughts are not just unhelpful, but usually inaccurate.
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