With the experience that comes from dating widely and simultaneously, you will be able to [better] spot a dud and avoid him.” Brandy Explains Why She Doesn't Date You’ll Feel More Comfortable Ending Things“In a way, this is about the law of scarcity,” says Johnson. When you date one man exclusively, you’re more likely to think in terms of negotiation and compromise, sacrifice and―well, let’s be honest, settling―than you are if you are dating multiple men.When you take away the element of fear, it becomes much easier to make rational decisions about your relationship.
If you really want a twofer, make sure you have at least a couple hours in between rendezvous.People have a way of sticking around longer than you think they might or showing up earlier.One time, my roommate had one girl over and another girl on the way.She didn’t want to hurt the first girl’s feelings but needed her out right away.So, she did what any rational person would do: pretending to remember a pressing errand, got in the car, drove around the block a few times, and then came back to greet girl #2.Author, creator of the Single Girls Club and star of new Centric reality show , Stacii Jae Johnson, believes she has the answers that all women tired of dead-end dating seek.To help single women learn to date more confidently (and frequently) on their quest for love, she penned a manual on the benefits of not being glued to just one guy on your journey to meeting The One.Dear April Masini," I am dating three different men and feeling a bit conflicted about it.First of all, I haven't told any of them about one another, although exclusivity hasn't come up.She’s not a player or polyamorous; she’s just dating. I know, lying is fun and easy and sometimes it gives you a shiver of delight to let untruths fall from your cherry lips and watch those simpletons fall in line but no. Neither of you should take on each other’s baggage. Get your eyes off that little screen and onto the gorgeous person who you have tricked into liking you.On the second, max third date, casually say, “I’m dating more than one girl right now, but I think you’re amazing and really special.” Or some shit like that. Learn what movies she likes, what books she reads, who her friends are, how her family is doing. Living in the moment: not just an inspirational quote posted by assholes to Instagram while they’re not living in the moment.