Don't get further hooked into the already chaotic dynamics around the drinking behavior.
You may not be able to control their behavior, but you can certainly exert control over your family and your own choices; and if, in the end, you decide that "enough is enough," know that you have applied all that is possible to make your relationship work.
For some of us, however, this season highlights a much more commonplace and personal issue because our close relationships are already overshadowed by the specter of problem drinking.
We view celebrations with growing dread as they provide our problem drinker with what they consider to be a legitimate excuse for excess.
Most of us will come across people who are drinking too much in social situations.
And to be fair, who hasn't — from time to time — had one (or three) too many drinks at their own birthday party? It's time for holiday celebrations and barbecues at which keeping the wine and beer flowing is part of being hospitable.